Note: Darren Mack, accused of killing his ex-wife and shooting Judge Charles Weller who presided over his divorce case, was captured in Mexico and is facing charges.
Ironically many people defend and even support Darren Mack because of abuses and injustice suffered by him, abuses many feel is all too common in America's family court systems for which there is growing anger.
Some feel this problem is unavoidable as judges must decide between two people conflicting over deeply sensitive and emotional issues, issues requiring a winner and a loser. Others try to explain it by saying people like Darren Mack are bad spouses and bad parents and deserve to be divorced.
Truth is we know, we know, we know our family court system hurts good parents and faithful, loving spouses thousands of times each day. And, if these people who are wronged by the court were as bad as people say, judges and attorneys and their spouses and their children would be dropping dead like flies all over this nation every day.
In short, it is a lot safer to beat up a faithful, loving spouse in court than an unfaithful and abusive one.
Second, beating up loving and faithful spouses and parents is a lot more lucrative. The faithful will sacrifice more personal property and income to fight for the protection of their families and their children. That's more money for the attorneys. And attorneys like to support judges who rule in ways that make them rich. Not only that, but as judges help attorneys get richer, the state has to raise their salaries in order to keep judges on the bench. So, by supporting injustice, attorneys and judges write their own paychecks. Three thousand times per day in the United States alone.
But, let's back up and look at the whole picture. First, a narcissistic and dishonest spouse grabs an affair partner. Suddenly he or she has all the power. If one partner won't satisfy, the other partner will. So, there's a victim, a whore, and an idiot in the triangle. The whore and the idiot have all the time to plan and prepare for a war on the family while the faithful and loving spouse tries in vain to find a way to save the family.
Divorce papers arrive. Now our own family court system is threatening the right of the family to stay together and enjoy the shared family resources for the sake of the unfaithful. It's hard to tell whether our nation has become a terrorist state or a whorehouse with judges and attorneys for pimps. Or both.
The court threatens the innocent and holds out its dirty hands for extortion or protection money like a Mafia intimidator. But, many people would much rather encounter the Mafia. They're more likely to provide the protection they're paid to provide where the family courts promise protection, take your money, then terrorize you anyway.
So, our courts force the destruction of the marriage, force the sale of property, force the children to go between both homes but favoring the illicit pair since they're a "couple". And chances are they have more money and also have the family home. Eventually, the faithful spouse, suffering and struggling to survive is finally deprived of the children then forced to pay child and spousal support and watch the illicit pair enjoy the windfall.
People begin to question why the unfaithful spouse left, and to the faithful spouse, it feels like they're being blamed for something out of their control. When the faithful cry out in pain, they're shunned, told to snap out of it, to put the past behind and move on, to handle it like a man, like an adult. They're told life goes on. And, when they cry out for justice and protection of marriages, they're called angry and judgmental and told it is no wonder their spouse left them.
Is it really any wonder that Darren Mack killed his wife and shot the judge?
Is it really any wonder that a woman in central California came home to find
that her husband had shot their four children and turned the gun on himself?
Is it really any wonder that suicide rates among divorcees and their children
is several times higher and that the correlation between divorce rates and suicide rates is culturally universal? Is it any wonder that people fear marriage? Is it any wonder that children of divorce often go into the
counseling profession to help others while other children of divorce become vulnerable to peer pressure, join gangs, use drugs, drop out of school, become violent, and fail in their marriages later when they grow up?
And we sit and twiddle our thumbs pretending that children are resilient. That may be a great comfort to the unfaithful but it's no comfort to the children or the rejected spouse.
Then to solve this problem, the courts take another stupid stand and make a gag order prohibiting parents from talking to their children about the divorce. Even if the children have questions THEY need answered. The only time mention is allowed is when it is in favor of divorce. Parents behave like narcissistic fools and we're supposed to sit quiet while people tell our children that divorce is a normal part of life, that sometimes good and loving parents cannot get along and that the best thing to do for the family is to destroy it.
But, this is not entirely fair to the judges either becasue I believe there are indeed good, honorable, and faithful judges in our family court systems. Once in awhile you run into one. I had one. Sometimes when a judge claims his hands are tied, I think he's lying. He has more of a choice, and the minute you upset him, he will let you know it in a second of arrogant bullying. But, the judge in my case was a man I feel was honorable and sincere and that he was telling the truth when he said his hands were tied. I believe he would have ruled in the most honorable way available to him given the chance.
But, until these family court problems are solved, I am convinced there will be a steady increase in violence, and I don't like it.
WE need to be in prayer for this to change from the inside out. Diligent prayer.
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The FBI continues to pursue Darren Mack for allegedly murdering his wife and shooting of Judge Charles Weller on June 12, 2006.
Apparently Mack negotiated to turn himself in on the condition that his story of family court corruption be broadcast. Apparently he had left tapes with someone with instructions to have them broadcast should anything happen to Mack.
Comment:
When I learned about this shooting on the evening news, the first question came to mind was whether this judge was a family court judge. I liked the judge who presided over my divorce case. Although I suffered extortion, robbery, and injustice as most faithful spouses do, I felt that the judge presiding over my case would have ruled justly and reasonably had the unilateral no-fault divorce law allowed him to do so.
But, when I look at how many people in my situation end up suffering from depression and going onto medication for it, and when I hear about the suppressed anger many people carry, I cannot help but wonder how these wretched divorce laws can stay on the books without causing the families of every divorce attorney and judge to be imprisoned by fear in their own homes.
When the unfaithful lose, there is a feeling that justice has been served. But, when the unfaithful can gang up with their affair partners and plan out a nasty divorce and come out like bandits, and when attorneys can ask for tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars to protect the innocent and their children and then have the court rule unfairly anyway, frustration and stress levels can be extreme.
